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The subject we're exploring today is why the parts of us we hold most contempt and disdain are worthy of the most love and kindness. This is a subject that is very much easier said than done. The idea of loving the parts of ourselves that we feel disgust or real contempt toward is deeply challenging. But often we end up in a place where we have no choice but to try. And there is a counterintuitive irony here: it is not until we love these parts of ourselves that we can actual

Today, I want to explore the question: how does someone become a people pleaser? What actually is people pleasing? Why do we use it as a way to manage our emotions? And most importantly, how do we begin to discharge the energy of it? For most of us, people pleasing ends up feeling exhausting, futile, and never-ending. There’s often some awareness of it. A sense of, I do this… and I don’t really want to do this anymore. So what we’re doing here is raising awareness of the mec

Today, I want to explore what I see as the number one priority, the real superpower, when it comes to healing childhood trauma. I’m not going to say “accelerate” your healing, because we’re not in a rush here. But if you want to deepen your healing, if you want something that genuinely supports real change, this is where it starts. And the interesting thing is, it’s not something you need to create. You don’t need to generate it. You don’t need to fix yourself to have it. You

Today, I want to explore four common myths that many of us get caught in. I’ve gone through every single one of these myself. These myths often sit quietly in the background of the healing journey. We don’t always realise we’re believing them, but they can seriously slow us down or keep us stuck. So let’s go through each one and look at what’s really going on underneath. Myth 1: “It wasn’t that bad” This is a very common one, especially at the beginning of the healing journey

Today I want to explore something that’s very close to my heart. It’s that feeling of not enoughness. Or not okayness. Whatever name you want to give it. That background sense that no matter what I do, where I go, or how I am, there’s something missing. Like I just need to do a bit more, be a bit more, fix something else, improve something else. And only then I’ll be able to relax. For many people, it feels like a carrot dangling just out of reach. There’s always something el

Today we’re going to look at the question of how do we heal from a relationship with a parent who is a narcissist. What’s involved? What do we need to do, and how does it actually come about? Now, let’s get to the meat and potatoes of it. How do we break free from a relationship with a parent who is a narcissist? I’m going to be talking from clinical experience, but mostly I’m going to be talking from my own personal experience of dealing with my father, who was a definite ch

This is a space where we explore issues in and around healing childhood trauma. And today I want to talk about something that, in my experience both personally and professionally, sits right at the core of that work: inner child healing. Inner child work is often spoken about casually, but I genuinely see it as one of the most fundamental pillars of healing childhood trauma. It’s been invaluable for me in my own therapy, and it’s something I return to again and again in my wo

Understanding Your Healing Journey Today, I want to explore five signs that you’re actually making progress in your healing childhood trauma journey. This topic is important because healing often feels like climbing a mountain. We’re always looking toward the next stage, the next insight, and the next place we want to reach. In that process, it’s very easy to forget to stop, turn around, and notice that we’re not where we started. Often, real progress is quiet. It doesn’t ann

Today I want to explore why I think AI therapists are a really bad idea. And I’m not saying this because I’m worried about losing my job. What I want to outline is why this is a problem for therapy itself, and why it’s also a problem in terms of what it points to socially and culturally. AI therapy isn’t something that’s coming in the future. It’s already here. At the moment, it seems to show up in two main forms. One is what you might call informal AI therapy, where someone

Today I want to look at something that comes up a lot on the healing childhood trauma journey, which is how we deal with intense emotions. We’re often told that we need to feel our feelings, and for many people, especially those who have lived in detached, dissociated, or numbing states, learning to feel again can be incredibly important and healing. It’s something I’ve had to work through myself. But there’s another end of the spectrum that doesn’t get talked about as much.

Loving the Enemy Within: A Psychological Reading of a New Testament Teaching Today I want to explore the relationship between a particular line from the New Testament and the work of healing childhood trauma. Specifically, I want to look at how one very simple and profound teaching can quietly but radically change how we relate to ourselves, our pain, and our healing process. Before I go any further, I want to be clear about something. I’m not a Christian. I’m not a Buddhist.

Spiritual abuse is a deeply painful experience that can leave lasting scars on a person's emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. It often occurs within religious or spiritual communities where trust and faith are expected to provide comfort and guidance. Instead, manipulation, control, and harm take place, leaving victims feeling isolated and confused. Recovering from such trauma requires understanding, patience, and effective strategies to rebuild trust in oneself and

Building and maintaining healthy relationships is essential for emotional well-being. However, many people struggle with forming secure bonds due to past experiences or emotional wounds. Secure attachment therapy offers a pathway to healing and stronger connections. This article explores how this therapeutic approach can help individuals rebuild trust, improve communication, and foster lasting relationships. Understanding Secure Attachment Therapy Secure attachment therapy fo

Emotional well-being is a vital part of living a balanced and fulfilling life. It influences how we think, feel, and handle stress, relationships, and challenges. Improving your emotional health can lead to better decision-making, stronger relationships, and a more positive outlook on life. This article offers practical mental wellness advice to help you enhance your emotional well-being every day. Understanding the Importance of Mental Wellness Advice Mental wellness is more

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyone faces challenges that test their strength and spirit. Developing resilience is key to navigating these tough times. Resilience means bouncing back from adversity, learning from setbacks, and growing stronger. This article explores practical strategies to build resilience and overcome life difficulties effectively. Understanding Resilience and Overcoming Life Difficulties Resilience is not about avoiding problems but managing them with a

Spiritual abuse is a deeply painful experience that can leave lasting scars on a person's emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. It often occurs within religious or spiritual communities where trust and faith are expected to bring comfort and growth. Instead, manipulation, control, and harm take root, leaving individuals feeling isolated, confused, and broken. Recovering from such harm requires patience, understanding, and practical steps toward healing. Understanding S

Lies and Shame Lying, to some degree, is a natural part of growing up and being human. Most people tell little fibs here and there. The...

Today I want to unpack one of those phrases that gets thrown around a lot in the healing world: What is self-love? "You need to love...

If you read John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, Julian of Norwich, or most mystics from that era, you’ll notice something striking: They didn’t just value humility; they actively asked for it. Julian of Norwich had three spiritual wishes. One of them was to be gravely ill, approaching death’s door, just to see God more clearly. And that actually happened. John of the Cross openly writes about asking God for things to go wrong , for hardships to come his way, to bring him ba

Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Today I want to sit with a big question. One that’s haunted poetry, film, culture, and maybe,...